It is true what they say that there are no perfect things in our lives. Even in marriage nowadays can be classified in this category of no perfect things. Right now, it is very common for couples to live-in together because so they would know the each other much better. This happens because of the rapid growing of broken marriages, abusive relationships and many more. There are things that ruin a relationship but I'll just only give the major things.
The Three things that can ruin one's relationship:
1. Money
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Trouble in finance is no. 1 in any list you see. They get to be angry if one's needs or the family's need doesn't meet. Sometimes, you will have unforeseen expenses which some of us are not ready about it. Like for example, emergency for any family member or calamity is also one reason. One also a reason that falls into the money category is financial insecurity. Money should not be an issue for the two of you. You should talked it out on what you need you to do calmly nothing will solved by arguing.
2. Insensitivity
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Insensitivity is very common in every relationship especially when you are married. When you get home you ignore each other because of exhaustion and wanted just to relax but sometimes your partner would want you to be tender (If you are living in together).
When you are ignored and your partner is too work up on something to notice, you will get angry and thus the argument would start. Both of you need to be sensitive in your partner's need and wants. Even if it just a little thing sometimes when you go home you want a loving welcome coming from your partner.
3. Word War
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Never ever start a word war. For those who doesn't know what a word war is. It is exchanging of words like blaming their faults or how mediocre your partner is. Don't criticize your partner for their imperfections or their flaws and ever bring out the past especially when your partner is recuperating. Words are hard to take back, once you blurred it out so just take a deep breathe choose your words carefully don't let your emotions take the best of you.
If an argument is about to start, just be calm and pray to God for self control for both of you and a clear understanding of each other. Let God be the center of your lives and don't forget it.
fighting over money is totally a big NO NO! it can easily ruin a relationship..but I can't count "insensitivity" as of them because most men are insensitive..dahil hindi kame manghuhula! hahahaha! just kidding
ReplyDeletelolz sometimes girl tend to give out signs naman :) hindi niyo lang napapansin :P
Deletemostly vague signs LOL!
DeleteIf you really are paying attention to your partner's needs wala na rin ung signs signs na un :P
Deleteminsan insensitive din yung too much drama just because hindi kayo naglalambingan after a tiring day. we girls, also need to understand that relationship is not always about lambingan.. we need to understand men.
Deleteoo pero minsan pag sobra na nakakainis na =))
Deletewow! may kakampi kami! woot! @linai :D
DeleteMoney really should be talked about in detail before starting a marriage or family, para walang word war saying that someone doesn't contribute.
ReplyDeleteInsensitivity, becomes an issue if we're very sensitive din, sometimes akala natin insensitive sila pero maxado lang tayong assuming and expecting.
ReplyDeleteHi Mommy! Pinagdaanan namin ni Hubby lahat yan. The Money, Insensitivity and the World war but we survive! Thinking back di ko alam pano namin na survive. Siguro is that we really love each other and maybe he is older than me. :)
ReplyDeleteFighting over money is the worst I guess. Life is too short to fight over these things.
ReplyDeleteI agree with every factor you discussed here. In our case, more often than not, it's my over-sensitivity that causes fights. Not that we have many, though. Ever since we made the decision to make Jesus the center of our relationship, it has gotten so so much better.
ReplyDeleteAgreed- and sometimes, jealousy...
ReplyDeleteOne piece of advice that my dad gave us on our wedding was to never ever EVER fight about money. Another thing I've realized is that you can't always have things go your way, so you must learn to compromise in most situations.
ReplyDeleteI think at one point, each couple may encounter these issues. Either one all or of them, it does not matter. As long as you get to talk it over get a better understanding of the situation. It's the ability to move forward that will determine if you will break it or make it.
ReplyDeleteI'm very lucky to have found a partner who shares the same financial goals as I do. I do the budgeting and I usually just tell him where I have allocated the money (including my spending! haha!). Although he could no longer do anything about the things I've bought, he doesn't get angry but just constantly reminds me of our goals. As for the word war, well, he makes sure he doesn't answer my anger with his own. He keeps it shut and wait til I've cooled down before talking to me.
ReplyDeleteThe first thing my husband and I talked about when we were starting is no fighting about money because it's one of the most common things that ruins a relationship.
ReplyDeleteThis is a perfect reminder. It's kind of hard sometimes especially when you feel pushed to your limits na pero us moms wants a complete and healthy family so everytime we fight, I never forget to reflect and talk things over. =)
ReplyDeleteFighting over money is foul! We have these rules at home na hindi dapat namin pag-aawayan ang money and think first before speaking. You can't take it back when you say something bad to a loved one. You can earn money and buy so many things with it. But there are things that money can't buy. :)
ReplyDeleteAll-Around Pinay Mama